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6 Secrets About Men's Sexual Needs & Desires
Men Think About Sex Every 30secs 😯 - now that's alotta sex on Men's minds.!! IS IT REALLY TRUE.? Well, we as ladies can't answer that. So this article I came across; is actually written by a man who explains the needs and desires (sexual) of men. Let's see if it can answer our questions 😏
Ladies here it is; Scott Alden of alternet.org talks about the sexual needs and desires of men in this article.
He says there are alotta annoying & frustrating myths that get tossed around about how men think & feel about sex. Most of them are based on extremes & seem to come from a need to put something very complicated in simple terms. We're not just looking to get off (we can TC of that quite easily). It's not just the thrill of conquest (we assume that when women sleep with us it's because they want to & not because they've been DEFEATED, right?). It's not just...
- cont. on 👉
...our biological imperative to make as many little versions of ourselves as possible before we die (most of us are actually trying NOT to knock you up). So what the hell is it? What drives men towards sex & what does it mean to us when it happens?
So, in the spirit of promoting better understanding between the sexes, here's 6 deep dark secrets about how men really feel about SEX.
1 - WE DON'T ACTUALLY WANT SEX ALL THE TIME
We just think we're supposed to want it all the time, & unfortunately, this seems to be what women think too. It's extraordinarily difficult for a man to say no to guaranteed sex, not only because it's considered unmanly, but because women tend to assume that something's "WRONG". Nothing's wrong. Just like women, we only want sex...when we WANT IT. The problem is that we're often terrible at knowing the difference b/w sex we want & sex we don't want until the awkward post-coital embrace. We really need to work on that one.
*now to me (as a woman) - I think men are confused* #oopsy 🙊🙈🙈
2 - SEX = VALIDATION
We're racked with self doubt, constantly. We try to ignore it, cover it up with obnoxious bravado, & occasionally, we actually try to work on the bad habits that are making us feel so lousy about ourselves. Mostly, we try to push away feelings of inadequacy because we're afraid we won't be attractive to women if we present as anything but totally confident. IT SUCKS!
There is a moment though, when the inner critic has to shut his stupid little mouth and let the grown ups talk. It's the moment of Orgasm, followed by the collapse into a woman's arms. THAT'S THE BEST!!
*hmm is that true?* 💭
3 - IT IS ABOUT POWER
The domination thing is no myth, but it's not a scary bad thing either. We want you lost in a raging, out of your mind, forgetting your own name, ocean of ecstasy. We want you to completely lose control & we want to be the guy who took it from you. But, really, it's not about power; because everybody wins, right?
*selfish I'd say; but hey, we don't mind abita domination* 😉
4 - WE'RE DISTANT BECAUSE WE CARE
Sexual prowess is the Holy Grail of manhood. More than success, athleticism & witty banter. If we're not killer in the sack, we've failed as men. There's alotta ways we can fail; it can be over too fast, take way too long, too rough or too gentle. Worst of all, there's a fear that we won't get you off.
We want you to have a good time & we certainly don't want you to tell your friends that we suck in bed. It can be alotta pressure. So, sometimes we just pretend we don't care & sometimes the pretending becomes habitual. Really, though, deep down, we care a lot.
*sorry but I beg to differ* ✋
5 - YOU PROBABLY KNOW MORE ABOUT WHAT SEX MEANS TO US THAN WE DO
Men don't usually get the opportunity to observe themselves during the physical act of love. Women, on the hand get a first POV of what we're like when we're doing it. If you really want to know what sex means to us, try to let go of your assumptions & just pay attention because we're not all the same!!
*ladies what you say to that eh?* 😕
6 - WE'RE ALL ACTUALLY PRETTY DIFFERENT
This is the biggest secret of all, because it's not actually a secret. Everyone already knows that there's no fail-safe formula for understanding men. If you want to understand a man sexually, you have to have actual sex with him. Lots and lots of times. Unfortunately, it's the only way!!
*well ladies, you'll only "know" what & how much the "man" wants you to know about him & his sexual desires* 😑😑
What matters the most is how the TWO OF YOU are in your relationship.!! Enjoy your relationship & live it together; build it strong & love endlessly & forever; be true to eachother & stay strong 😊❤️
Right then, that's it...in a man's own words on the sexual needs & desires of men.
I dunno about any of u & I might sound negative BUT I don't agree to a few things in that. It was a good read though. Hope you've enjoyed it, learnt something new about MEN & SEX...& hopefully many of u haven't found "negatives" in it like I have.
Find Scott & his informative article here: http://www.alternet.org/story/151668/6_secrets_about_men%27s_sexual_needs_and_desires