5 Signs You’re In A Toxic Or Draining Relationship by Mau Lyn - Musely
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5 Signs You’re In A Toxic Or Draining Relationship

posted in Health & Fitness
07/06/2014
  • “Toxic” doesn’t only entail obvious damage like physical abuse, stealing, or name-calling. It also represents all the internal turmoil that results from an unhealthy relationship. I’d like to share how I learned to recognize when I was in a relationship that was not suitable for me.
    “Toxic” doesn’t only entail obvious damage like physical abuse, stealing, or name-calling. It also represents all the internal turmoil that results from an unhealthy relationship. I’d like to share how I learned to recognize when I was in a relationship that was not suitable for me.
  • 1. It seems like you can’t do anything right.

    The other person constantly puts you down as not good enough. They mock your personality, and you feel ashamed most of the time. You only feel pardoned when you take on the traits of the person doing the condemning or judging.

  • 2. Everything is about them and hardly ever about you.

    You have feelings, too, but the other person won’t always take time to hear them deeply. You’re unable to have a genuine two-sided conversation where your opinion is heard, considered and respected. Instead of acknowledging your feelings 100%, they find a way to turn it around and make it about themselves. It seems these people particularly value having the final say.

  • 3. You find yourself unable to fully enjoy good moments with this person.

    Every day brings another challenge. It seems as though they are always raising gripes about you or someone around you. Their attempt to control your behavior is an attempt to control your happiness and sometimes ultimately to gain a deeper hold on your willpower.

  • 4. You’re uncomfortable being yourself around that person.

    You don’t feel free to speak your mind. You have to put on a different face just to be accepted by that person. You realize you don’t even recognize yourself anymore and may even find yourself saying and doing things you don’t fully agree with just so you can not create issues with this person.

  • 5. You’re not allowed to grow and change.

    Whenever you aim to grow and improve yourself, the other person responds with mockery and disbelief. There is no encouragement or support for your efforts. Instead, they keep you stuck in old judgments insisting that you may not be able to do things on your own or with success.

  • If you’re experiencing even just one of these signs, check in with yourself to see if the relationship is doing more damage than good. Evaluate the relationship and what it’s worth to you.

    Embrace the answers that come from your intuition, as it wants the best for you—and this relationship might not be it.

  • Take deliberate action according to your gut feeling. You won’t be sorry.
    Maybe you choose to talk about your feelings with the other person, or you decide to put more space between the two of you.

    It’s important that if you’re feeling uncomfortable or unsettled in the relationship that you not wait around until the effects of the misery settle into depression.

    Taking any action is the best medicine.

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